Divorce in Nigeria has mostly been tagged a vice. People would rather die than leave their abusive marriages. This might be due to the influence of Religion or/and tradition. According to The Cable, Divorce rate in Nigeria is 3 times lower than Divorce in the USA (2019). Regardless of the negative tag attached to Divorce in Nigeria, here are situations when divorce MUST be an option:
Domestic Violence and Abuse:
Regardless of whatever is holding the marriage, once a partner becomes violent towards the spouse, the ideal thing is to run and leave that marriage.
Perpetual and Chronic infidelity
On no level is cheating right! It’s okay if you want to ignore it at first; but when it becomes chronic; you must flee.
Once you are in a marriage out of pity for your spouse; You are wrong! It’s best you get out as early as you can.
This is a very tricky but valid point. If you REALLY want kids and your partner is unable to provide them; or for one reason or the other is not interested in having them (including exploring other options such as IVF and adoption) its best advised that you walk out of your marriage.
Lack of Chemistry:
Try your best to work on your marriage. Go, see a Shrink, talk about things that bother you with your spouse, do ‘couple’s things’ together. But the minute you feel it’s not working out, its better you walk out than cheat or start disrespecting your spouse. It usually does not end well.
It is important to know that Divorce is not the answer; However, do not let societal expectations make you suffer and die in an abusive or unfulfilling marriage. Read the grounds for divorce in Nigeria here